I remember a saying that goes something like this “as you pass through the doors of your experiences in your life if one of the doors squeaks fix it so it wont squeak for the person behind you” and that’s what i try to do.

I really like this Binky! Thanks for doing this with your group!

Holly,

Thank you so much for you point. It helps me know that the post perhaps was not as clear as I would like. I was not trying to say at all that Paul Walker’s life was better or worse than Mandela’s. Instead I was talking about how they each will be remembered. Paul Walker had an amazing charity and did a lot of hands on work and yet, that is not the memory that has led the news. His driver was reduced to two sentences. You bring a good point as well about those who might want to grieve with Paul Walker’s mourners. Other will grieve Mandela. It was not meant at all to down play any life. I did not know either man personally. Instead, it got me contemplating, “How did each of these men desire to be remembered? Is that the memory that is being honored.” Neither life was less important to Christ.- Thanks- Leneita

I totally get where you are coming from. It may feel judgmental to say this persons life was better spent than this persons life (especially when we didn’t personally know either). But remember a legacy has little to do with what you do, and a lot to do with how you are remembered. The point, I think, of this post is not to pit two souls against each other for comparison, but to point out that when we pass on, people will remember us. How we live, and the choices we make not only determine where our souls go, but how we are remembered on those who remain. Thus, making the question, “how do you want to be remembered” a good question to ask ourselves frequently.

“Did any of you actually know Paul Walker? Didn’t think so…”

His point being, there was post after post about people lamenting his death and obviously these people didn’t know Walker (only in their dreams). And yet somehow, they shouldn’t be allowed to grieve or participate in the loss. What about the Bible verse about grieving with those who grieve? Does this only apply to fellow Christians? Peace keepers? Those that left a POSITIVE legacy?

Sure, I get your point, legacy is important. Like the woman with the alabaster box, loving on Jesus with everything she had and the verse following reading : “Assuredly, I say to you, wherever this gospel is preached in the whole world, what this woman has done will also be told as a memorial to her.” WOW. Legacy. Awesomeness.

But let’s not downplay one person’s life to make an example of them. Or uplift another who was indeed, just a man as well. Both loved for different reasons. Both making an impact for different reasons.