Be encouraged Steve, group mentoring is just as or more effective as one-on-one. In fact, most of my mentoring is in groups. A lot of contribution and input comes from groups. One method I use is picking a public place centrally located for the guys and the parents drop them off while they go run errands. I only mentioned one method in this article but I use them all. What you are doing is working, keep it up!

See above Tom. I included both of you.

Thank you Marcus and Tom for your affirmation question and concern. I did some research to double check my mentoring technique. Our church insurance company does not restrict us from being in a car alone with the SAME gender. Our church has particular policies independent from insurance as well. We carry ourselves with the typical guidelines with opposite gender that most churches use. By the way Marcus, my church uses Emery & Webb, Inc. for insurance, perhaps you could do some research for your church. Meanwhile, our church bylaws do not state we cannot be in a car alone with a student of same gender. Now, personally, I do use discernment and error on the side of caution with even male students, especially those dealing with sexual orientation. I also go through the parents for permission and build trust. The way our world is shifting these days I understand the concern and caution. I think it’s best that you obey your church’s insurance, church’s bylaws, ministerial ethics and rules appointed by church board and lead pastor. Tom, I’m not sure how or if I need to reply to your message but I thought I would let you know I respect what you are doing and I’m sure you have found some incredible ways to connect within the limits. I think it’s a delicate issue and perhaps more dialogue needs to take place. I appreciate your wisdom being in the field 27 years; that’s awesome! Your comment prompts me to be even more careful and wise in mentoring moments with students. Thanks again, guys!